We recently had two deaths in the family in the past six months – my father-in-law passed away in December 2015, while my grandmother passed away in March 2016. We flew back for the funeral both times.
On Father’s Day, Lia watched my husband silently weeping, remembering his father.
Me: Daddy is sad because he misses Lolo Boy.
Lia: Do you miss your lola too?
Me: Yes I do.
Lia: Why do people die all the time?
Before my husband’s birthday, Lia and I had a late-night conversation.
Lia: Mommy, I think Daddy is a superhero.
Me: Really? Who?
During a friend’s birthday party, she threw a tantrum after a friend’s baby tried to “borrow” some of the toys she won during the games. I took her out to have serious conversation.
Me: Anak, you need to share. Especially with the baby.
Lia: I don’t want to share with just any baby. I will only share with our baby. Why hasn’t Jesus given us a baby yet? Why is He taking such a long time?
I marvel sometimes at the conversations I have with the little one. Here are some things she told me recently:
“Mommy, do you want to talk about it?” – About her school’s sports day. I was talking to her when she was trying to sleep, so she stopped drinking milk, opened her eyes and asked me if I still wanted to talk.
“Mommy, I’m serious. I’m not kidding.” – About how tired she is walking home from the library that she can’t walk another step. That was almost an hour ago. She is still running around the playground refusing to go home. So I guess she wasn’t so tired after all…
“Mommy, that doesn’t make any sense.” – After I made up a silly rhyme about how she will join a race / with her Daddy and his shoelace.
Late night conversation before we went to sleep…
Lia: Mommy I saw a flower yesterday. I wanted to pick it up and give to you but Daddy said it’s crushed already.
Me: Awww that’s so sweet. Whatever you give Mommy, I will like.
Lia: So if I give you pupu (poo), you will like? If I give you cockroach you will like? If I give you batutness (being naked), you will like?